This post is really for myself. It is like a little confession and my hope is that writing will help me understand what is going on and how I can change something I’ve identified. I’m trying to keep myself “in check” because I thinks it’s valuable to do that from time to time.
I have realized that I form opinions about other entrepreneurs very quickly. Most of the time my opinion about a new acquaintance or founder that I’ve met is from a critical view point. For example, I meet someone and after speaking with them for 5-10 minutes, I walk away thinking more about the reasons why their idea will probably fail versus the positives in their character or how valuable it was to just meet someone new. I don’t think that’s a healthy default mentality and I definitely would not want someone to have that same impression after their first meeting with me.
I’ve become aware of this pattern in the past 6 months and subsequently spent some time trying to identify the cause of it because I like to believe that making quick judgements about people isn’t a habit I’ve always had.
My best guess is that I’m projecting one of my biggest fears as an entrepreneur onto the people I meet.
When I became interested in startups and entrepreneurship, it wasn’t something I just immediately jumped into. Entering the “startup scene” was a gradual process for me and during the years prior to co-founding Medko, I paid very close attention to the startup world from the outside by reading blogs and articles on a daily basis. I created this fake barrier of either being in or out of the startup world and along with it, I had imagined this bullshit notion that I needed to be “accepted” or have the approval of other entrepreneurs in order to be successful. My fear was was not being taken seriously – I didn’t want to be looked at as a joke, impostor, or outsider simply because I was inexperienced at building companies. I didn’t want people to immediately think I would fail.
I wanted to be recognized for the skills I had learned, the experiences I had gained, and the work ethic I showed up with it.
That is how I should approach meeting new entrepreneurs as well – look for the positives in them and not worry about their challenges. It’s the golden rule, treat people how you want to be treated. I’m excited to make this improvement in myself.